Patty, Jackson was putting me down in his first post when he told me to get a job and not rely on the child support as if it were a pay check. That was putting me down. He simply assumed that I am a lazy, no account that doesn't work. No Jackson, you did not call me any names but certainly implied that I was a deadbeat when you told me to get a job. Megan, I posted originaly to bring a problem out in the open, not sit and argue with people who don't care, don't understand, and really only want to put people down. Maybe these men who have been bashing me are noncustodial parents who resent having to give their ex-wives money for child support. I don't know that is a fact, just spouting my opinion, like Jackson. Liz, thank you for understanding my problem. You are the only one so far who can see my side of things. Most others have only been on the side of the men. Again, I didn't not come here to argue and I shouldn't have to defend myself againt allegations that are untrue.