First, I apologize if you misunderstood my post. Of course, I applaud grandparents who are raising their grandchildren because they have to. However, I do know what I am talking about, I personally know several grandparents who are raising their grandchildren only because their children just up and decided they would rather be partying, doing drugs, or dating people who don't want kids. I will stand firm that I will not tolerate my kids acting like that and I will not be their enabler allowing it to happen. If that decision doesn't work for you or anyone else, so be it, but there are a lot of things I won't tolerate my kids doing. My kids have no doubt that if they thought they were going to pretend they weren't a parent and date someone who didn't want kids that I would follow them around with their kid and make sure that date of theirs is fully aware that my child has responsibilities. Oh, would that be embarrassing or intrusive? Good! What, am I supposed to apologize for expecting better of them? It's called tough love and it works!