Let your home do your wooing
Could a few changes to your living space help you land the perfect mate?
Good decorating can’t guarantee happy romance, of course. But if a new date finds your home appealing, he or she is more likely to spend time there — which means spending time with you.
And if your home expresses your personality, you and your date can discover more quickly whether you’re compatible.
Fortunately, it’s not expensive to make your space more date-friendly, says interior designer Betsy Burnham. The goal isn’t to redecorate; you’re simply presenting your home at its best.
With Valentine’s Day approaching, Burnham and interior designers Brian Patrick Flynn of decordemon.com and Kyle Schuneman of Live Well Designs share advice on making a new date’s visit a successful one.
Clean up“The obvious things really are worth saying here: Cleanliness is free, and it’s appreciated,” Burnham says. “Do all the dishes before the person arrives. Scrub the sinks. Clean out the fridge. If you don’t want to do your laundry, get a couple of beautiful baskets and throw your laundry in there.”Every room matters. Even if your guest won’t be entering your bedroom, they may glimpse it on the way to the bathroom. So make your bed, and consider what the room says about you.
Light carefullyBurnham likes to light rooms with table lamps or floor lamps when guests visit. If you must use overhead lights, she advises dimming them to avoid glare.“People want to feel that they look their best, and you want your things to look as good as they can,” Burnham says. “Overhead lights flatter no one.”
Infuse your personalityBurnham suggests decorating your main living area with items that reveal something about your personality or experiences. Arrange a stack of your favorite books on a coffee table. If you play an instrument, consider displaying it.“If you’re out of the room, these things tell your date something about you,” she says. “They’re a jumping-off point for conversation.”
Create a lounge space“Since the kitchen is where most guests seem to feel the most comfortable, I like to turn small kitchens into more intimate, lounge-like gathering spaces, where conversation and flirtation is encouraged,” Flynn says.
Add fresh touchesAll three designers suggest adding just a few new details to energize your space. For minimal expense, you can brighten your sofa with new throw pillows or add fresh hand towels to the bathroom, Burnham says.Scout around for sales and buy a beautiful, oversize bowl to display fresh fruit in your kitchen, or a new vase for flowers.Don’t worry that you’ll come on too strong, she says. “Men, it doesn’t mean you’ve gone completely off the deep end for someone if you buy fresh flowers. It just means you’re making an effort.”
