Site last updated: Saturday, April 27, 2024

Log In

Reset Password
MENU
Butler County's great daily newspaper

Hospice choirs offer a parting song

NEWTON, Mass. — The singers enter single file, taking slow, deliberate steps as they intone a soft melody.

Norman Doelling, an 85-year-old who recently suffered a stroke, is there waiting, an audience of one, eased into a recliner in the home where he's lived for decades in the Boston suburbs.

“I guess I lived too long,” he jokes in a halting voice after the group finishes serenading him. “It was very charming. I have a great deal of appreciation. It was very nice of them to come and sing to an old man.”

The eight mostly older women are members of Journey Songs, one of hundreds of hospice choirs across the country and world.

The all-volunteer a cappella groups sing, when invited, at the bedsides of the elderly and terminally ill in hospitals, nursing homes and private residences. They offer calming melodies meant to bring comfort to relatives, caregivers and their loved ones.

“We're all about doing peaceful, quiet and uplifting songs,” says Kate Mason, the coordinator for Journey Songs. “It's almost as good as a touch. We touch people with love through our music.”

Jean Doelling says she invited the choir as a way to brighten the day for her mostly bedridden husband, who had worked for decades at MIT.

“It just described what we're experiencing,” says the 83-year-old Doelling after the group quietly files out of the house. “Norman is a very happy, content person. We're experiencing the autumn of our life, and we're doing it together.”

Singing to the dying has been done for centuries worldwide, mostly in the privacy of people's homes, says Kate Munger, founder of Threshold Choir, a Santa Rosa, Calif., group that's credited with helping launch the modern hospice choir movement.

But as end-of-life care moved to hospitals and nursing facilities, those traditions eroded, she says. Hospice choirs are, in some ways, trying to fill that void.

“It's difficult and challenging work, but it's also deeply satisfying,” Munger says. “People don't sign up for this unless they're sure this is something they're called to do.”

Munger formed her group in 2000 after singing to a dying friend with AIDS. The nonprofit organization now has more than 100 chapters across the U.S., Canada, the United Kingdom and Australia.

Singing experience generally isn't a requirement, and volunteers aren't trained as hospice care workers.

Choirs affiliated with the Threshold Choir sing spare melodies that are often just a simple phrase — “You are not alone. I am here beside you” is a commonly used one — repeated in different vocal styles by small groups of two to four singers.

More in Community

Subscribe to our Daily Newsletter

* indicates required
TODAY'S PHOTOS