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Kane must put on humility but first must find remorse

Disgraced and convicted former Pennsylvania Attorney General Kathleen Kane showed few signs of remorse at her sentencing hearing Tuesday on felony counts of perjury and leaking grand jury materials.

“I don’t care what happens to me,” Kane told Montgomery County Judge Wendy Demchick-Alloy.

Then Kane said something that shows she might have regrets, if not true remorse.

“There is no more torture in the world than to watch your children suffer and know you had something to do with it,” she said.

Judge Demchick-Alloy’s reply was galvanizing: “Your children are the ultimate collateral damages. They are causalities of your actions. But you did that, not this court.”

Is Kane incapable of feeling sorrow? If not, it’s a classic symptom of a mental condition called borderline personality/narcissist personality disorder, experts say.

“One of the hallmarks of the BP/NP (borderline personality/narcissist personality) is their lack of truly being sorry,” wrote Margalis Fjelstad Ph.D., in the July 1, 2015, edition of Psychology today. “Even though a BP/NP may say s/he is sorry, there is often something lacking. The BP/NP may regret an action, but it is hard to see true remorse in their response.”

Fjelstad draws a sharp but sometimes subtle distinction between regret and remorse.

“Regret has to do with wishing you hadn’t taken a particular action. You may regret an action because it hurt someone else, but you may also regret it because it hurt you, it cost you something emotionally or financially, or led to a punishment or undesirable result. Regret can lead a person to feel sorrow, grief, hurt and anger,” she wrote. “but these can be for the pain s/he feels for the self, not necessarily for the other person who was hurt by the behavior.”

It’s clear that Kane regrets what she’s done. Elected by a landslide, she was the darling of her Democratic Party and the Obama White House. Her popularity raised legitimate talk of a future run for governor, or higher. That’s all gone now. Kane’s career, reputation and party standing are in tatters.

But where is the remorse? Where is Kane’s capacity to absorb the judge’s message that she did this to her children. The courts didn’t do it to her. Her political enemies didn’t do it, either.

A few months ago, another disgraced former attorney general offered Kane the benefit of his experience. Ernie Preate Jr., who served a 14-month prison sentence after pleading guilty to campaign finance violations in 1995, tells Kane she can rebuild her life and career — but it won’t be easy.

After prison, Preate returned to his hometown of Scranton — which, coincidentally is Kane’s hometown too — and worked to get his suspended law license reinstated. After 16 years of hard work, Preate has rebuilt a successful and respected law practice. He got his life back

Preate says the key ingredient was humility, saturated in sorrow.

You did this to yourself, Preate suggests to Kane, but there’s still a life ahead.

“You have to understand you’ve done something wrong and not be arrogant and not write books about it,” Preate said in an August interview with the Allentown Morning Call. “You see people write books all the time of why they are innocent. Just move on and do it with humility, and maybe you get your law license back if you want it.”

For Kane, maybe the rehabilitation can begin with admitting the harm she’s caused to her sons.

From there, she might eventually acknowledge the damage she’s done to her constituents.

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